The things we tell ourselves become our life story. Self-love and self-hate inhabit the same brain. If we have been wounded emotionally, especially in our youth, we may experience recurrent flashbacks. These intrusive images come together with intense emotions. Emotions that may be extremely overwhelming. Sometimes a loud sound, a smell, or the presence of someone who reminds us of past events may send our emotions on a tail spin. Post-traumatic flashbacks, family losses, relationship struggles, and stress at work may test our wellbeing in the here and now.
How we cope and having a clear awareness of the issues we face can help us to identify if we need help. Effective coping skills will determine how well we function in our day to day duties and how to prevent anxiety and depression from raising their ugly heads, bringing chaos and pain into our lives.
Our brains need a balanced amount of serotonin in our pre-frontal cortex to feel well. Serotonin is decreased by stress when too much cortisol is produced, causing in imbalance in our brain.
We tend to hide our aggression because it contradicts our values and our super-ego impulses. Hidden anger and aggression make us more susceptible to depression, and anger outbursts make it more likely for us to have a stroke, as recently discovered by scientists.
It is important to understand that our pre-frontal cortex, with it’s mammalian features, develop creativity and logic. The back of our brain, the reptilian complex, is triggered by the fight and flight response and aggression. Aggression and pain can seriously affect our lives if we do not learn to change our exercise, sleeping, and eating habits.
It is very important for most of us struggling with anxiety and depression to learn new coping skills to successfully deal with the stressors of our everyday lives. Effective coping skills can turn off the reptilian complex and activate the pre-frontal cortex.
To accomplish this we need to identify and look to ameliorate those stressors by reconceptualizing what and why we have anxiety and depressive thoughts. Writing, for example, is an effective method to become aware of why and how our emotions are triggered.
Creating new habits in a gradual manner will also help us reach our goal of living a well-balanced life. An a example of a positive habit to incorporate is walking. Walking will produce the chemical called serotonin our brains need to feel more joy and happiness.
There are many more internal and external coping skills that can become tools to conquer anxiety, depressive thoughts, and anger. These tools will be the subject of my next update. They are psychological techniques that you can use to trick your brain into coping with the intense emotions you experience. Moreover, the intended purpose of this blog is to help those out there looking for useful answers to help with their pain. Ultimately, it is my recommendation for you to seek a qualified therapist who can assist you individually towards a full therapeutic recovery.